"How are you feeling today?" My phone screen is inquiring.
Have a difficult breakup? It's time to pay attention to the heart. (Source: Twenty20 / NAO) Sad cleaning
"How do you feel today?" The problem with the flashing screen of the mobile phone is now answered by me more than four months ago, in "Sad Cleaning" The first day - Mede's initial breakup after training.
On that day, a significant less crowded subway commute, my answer was a crying emoji. The lowest choice in the mood spectrum.
Heartbreak Clean is a free personalized program based on the type of breakup you are experiencing. Every time I train (written by experts, whose expertise is personal and Huerta's butter voice narrative), I am getting closer and closer to the perspective of change: from victim to better closure, from him to me.
"If someone can't give you, you have to be very strong and kind to yourself, knowing that breadcrumbs are not enough for you, you want the whole cake," said training, about my commitments Break up. In the first few days, my ex-partner was posted on Instagram next to his newcomer, and when I started the treatment, my feelings had begun.
"Society will see the first" natural impede the healing process, "said Dr. Marni Feuerman, he is a licensed psychotherapist, also Ghosted and author of Breadcrumbed: Since you can not stop the fall with men And get the Sm art about health. "If you can see that they have new people, it is really stinging. "
But that's the way it is - speaking in the spirit of action rather than words ("I don't want to lose friendship." "I can still see that I am married to you one day." The last stimulus fueled the fire. Finally, it led to the final step of the patching process: focus on yourself.
As part of the application creation process, Mend CEO Huerta contacted many people from older generations and had a recurring mood : Their breakup is a critical moment in their lives.
"About the heartbreakThe good thing is that those who invest in time and their own patching eventually understand who they are and what kind of life they want to live and the type of people they want to surround themselves," Huerta said.
I said, Amen. A few months ago, I chose the daily theme to focus on (you choose a new theme every week) related to heartbreak, commitment, loneliness. The theme of this week is: Forgiveness. Work Sleep. Self-care.
"Amazing things I continue to see that almost all of their Menders are they join Mend and they are at the lowest point and they focus on breaking up," Huerta said. After a while, the app will focus more on themselves and their relationship with themselves. Indeed, I think the way to break up is to turn inward. "
Middleman
My relationship is hip-hop clear: official. Exclusive. Years of investment. Separation. But further eliminating my position, the more I contacted my friends, the experience is even Menders (Through the private Mend Facebook team), I realized that even this is a luxury. In today's modern landscape, there are many middlemen.
"Technology makes people's dating habits less sympathetic and sensitive . People are more prone to ghosts - just disappear without explanation - and other people's bad behavior," psychotherapist Feuerman said.
San Francisco's marriage and family therapist Allison Zamani added, "People seem more willing to Dating with multiple people. People began to shrink people, they date more when they have five successful appointments with one person, and in the past it is more like three. You should also expect more time to communicate with people you date. "
This makes sense. Currently, the Mend team is focused on how to best manage the barriers to all these modern relationships, according to Huerta, for relationships that are closed again, and for non-relationships (or "almost relationships," There is a lot of demand for training that may never be exclusive or official, but people may feel that they are connected to someone and believe that it will eventually become unique.
"People feel a little guilty and shameful They feel very depressedFuneral, affected friends or their boyfriends because they lost or even not their women, but the label does not matter. What matters is your investment in this person and your expectations for the future," Huerta said.
Is my heart cured?
So...I Is the heart cured? Sometimes I woke up in the morning without meditation to tame my anxiety. Sometimes I forgot to give up completely, because at the moment, my predecessor occupied the smallest space in my mind. I have changed My narrative heart: focus on my career, my friendship and plan an exciting trip.
My answer is yes. An app - for me, this app - Can heal a broken heart. The best part? It doesn't feel like a band-aid. It feels like a stitch.
Heartbreaking? These apps may help
Patching: Focus on solving problems through daily training, diary and emphasis on self-care.
Break up boss: Act as a self-help book and encourage the big picture, about your breakup Positive views.
Rx breakup: provides 30 days Activities that keep you busy while breaking up.
