If it's just learning, it's as simple as "birds and bees." If you are like most people in the United States, your sexual experience is focused on information on pregnancy avoidance, abstinence and sexually transmitted diseases. While experts believe that these themes can and should be respected in sex education, there seems to be little information about actual gender or relationships. Filling these gaps can help you and your partner ensure a healthy, happy and safe sex life. Here are nine things you should know.
Credit: Adob e Stock / Dmitry Vereshchagin1. Gender is more than just sexual intercourse.
You are taught that sexual intercourse involves the penis entering the vagina, but it still has a lot of things. “While the facts of learning to communicate and copy are important, it seems to me that removing it from the relationship that took place is a mistake,” said Dr. L. Kris Gowen, author of “Sexual Decisions”. She said that few gender programs can check the characteristics of healthy relationships, such as trust, honesty, communication and respect. But the main focus on sexual intercourse, abstinence and sexually transmitted diseases help to continue the myth - just as oral sex is not a true sexual act - which may make people less likely to use condoms, discuss the history of sexually transmitted infections and take other preventive measures.
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The genitals are available in a variety of shapes and sizes. Stella adult sex educator Harris wants people to know how diverse they are. Her class "Map Vulva" discusses different manifestations of "normal", such as the labia or vaginal lip - larger than the vulva. “People really think that when they don’t look like pornography, they’ll have problems,” she said. “It’s causing self-image problems and unnecessary surgical problems.” This seems to be a cause of cosmetic vaginoplasty. This vaginoplasty has not been proven to be safe or effective (even in many cases necessary) and is on the rise. Credit: Adob e Stock / kinwun [ 123] 3. Sex shouldIt is pleasant.
Happiness is the cornerstone of sex, but it has hardly been mentioned in the sex education curriculum in the United States. This is a problem with ic is very common. Sex Harris, a sex educator, said: "We missed sex mainly for intimacy and pleasure," she said, so when people don't like themselves, people don't say it. Learning without happiness will also convey the message that it is not important - or worse, it is taboo, especially for women. This can lead them to miss the potential benefits of climactic behavior, such as reducing pain, more frequent menstruation, improving mood and improving sleep.
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Adob e Stock / Studio Trebuchet 4. Enough wake up can minimize pain.In a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2015, 30% of female participants and 7% of men reported having experienced pain. Vaginal sexual intercourse - in most cases did not tell their partner. “Pleasant sexual behavior is associated with awakening,” said Dr. Carol, a writer and cultural scientist. But she also said that most people don't know how awakening works, especially women. Before inserting your fingers, toys or penis, be sure to lubricate the vagina with plenty of foreplay, commercial lubricants or both to help avoid irritation and increase pleasure.
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Adob e Stock / nd3000 5. Equivalent organ of the penis Not a vagina.The vagina has received a lot of attention in the surrounding discussion, which is a matter of course. But when you say "his" and "her," the correct match with the penis is not the vagina - it is the clitoris. Like a penis, the clitoris becomes slack and erect during awakening and should be fully stimulated. "If the clitoris is not fully stimulated, orgasm may become a problem," said the cultural scientist Queen Carroll. This organ contains thousands of nerve endings that usually pave the way for climax.
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Adob e Stock / lilburd 6. Sexually transmitted infections are common and shameless. [Sex includes sexually transmitted infections and often bypasses the stigma associated with sexually transmitted diseases. While learning to prevent sexually transmitted infections is important, these stigma may be more damaging to mental health than infections, says sex educator Anne Hod. “It’s important that students learn about common sexually transmitted infections so much that they When they have a sexually transmitted disease, they can take care of themselves without shame or fear of impeding their sexual health," she said. It's all important, considering this. More than half of sexually active adults will have sexually transmitted or sexually transmitted diseases at some point. "People with sexually transmitted infections are living a healthy, 'normal' life and deserve the same respect as we give others," Hod said.
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7. Masturbation matters.Masturbation is healthy, natural and often the first one-time activity of a person. Because it is often skipped by gender, however, people experience a certain degree of shame in practice, and even avoid it, which can deprive them of their major interests. Sexual self-stimulation does not involve the risk of sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies, and it can increase pleasure and confidence. A study published in the 2013 Journal of Sexual and Marriage Therapy showed that masturbation in early life may increase awakening and orgasm in women's adulthood. Another study on sex and disability in 2016 showed that solo games can promote sexual autonomy for women with disabilities.
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8. Pornography is not always a real gender.Just as rom-coms is not always a real-life relationship, pornography can be misleading. However, due to the gap in traditional sexual love, many people will eventually learn more about sexual knowledge movies from adu. Although porn can have a place in a healthy sex life, the gender it depicts is not what you should pursue. Sex educator Anne Hod said: "pornography exists for one purpose: entertainment," he added, an important part of sex.Points (sexually transmitted disease testing, personal hygiene, consent and communication) occur behind the scenes. Everything from position to wake-up rhythm is unrealistic. Porn can help you explore your libido and provide you with real-life ideas, just make sure you communicate with your partner and reconcile your expectations.
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9 Agree is crucial.Sex educator Kate said that not only should sexual education be taught, but also should be agreed in adolescent and non-sexual lifestyles. Scalisi, M.P.H. Since you probably don't know much about it, there is no time to make sure you understand and implement it now. She said: "The more you imitate, ask for permission, set and maintain boundaries, and respect someone's 'no', the concrete practice of this consent is more ingrained." For example, you can ask someone before hug, or when Say "no" when you are uncomfortable with this exchange. All of this makes it easier to communicate and respect the boundaries of the bedroom. After all, there is no disagreement about sex. (The proper term is rape.)
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What do you think?Have you ever had sex at school? Do you think it covers all the foundations? Does it cover anything in this list? Which of the following things surprised you? Which do you know? Share your thoughts and questions in the comments below.
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